'Everyone says I ruined cousin's wedding but I actually saved him from horror'

A woman decided to wear a white dress to her cousin's wedding but things didn't go to plan - and now her family have been forced to take sides over who is right and wrong

Everyone knows it's wrong to wear white to a wedding unless you're the bride - but sometimes there's an exception to this rule. That's exactly what one woman thought was happening when her wedding invite to her cousin's big day asked all women to wear "white and very light pastels".

Wanting to stick to the dress code, she hunted for a special white dress for the occasion - but it turns out, it was all 'a set up'. Taking to Reddit, she said: "My then cousin-in-law-to-be gave me the wedding invitation herself and it said that women should wear white and very light pastels. When I asked her about it she told me she got inspired by Desi wedding videos and she will have a bold res wedding dress with a full length skirt.

"But since she still wanted to stand out she thought every woman should have light pastels or white dresses so we can share the happiness of being a bride ourselves with her."

The Redditor was doubtful about the invite and made sure to double-check with the bride before sorting her dress.

She added: "I made a photo of the invitation and asked her in messenger to clarify some more that she's sure I can wear white because I want to wear my grandmother's wedding dress and then I took screenshot of that conversation.

"I am my grandmother's only granddaughter and I've been promised that I can wear her wedding dress in my wedding day when I was very little because my mother and godmother (my aunt) didn't want it.

"My grandmother is still alive to enforce it, too. It's a very simple and modest dress, because my grandmother is a very simple and modest woman and she was also very poor when she got married."

However, she discovered her cousin-in-law had requested to wear it as well but was refused.

She explained: "I thought she was over it. Turns out, I was wrong. So I took my grandmother's wedding dress. Didn't do anything, no cleaning or resizing or anything. Just put it in my closet. This was last week.

"Today my family and her family grilled me over open flame publicly on Facebook for 'trying to wear grandma's wedding dress and show up and hurt the bride who wanted to wear it on her wedding day'."

It was then she clarified the situation and shared her screenshots. After this revelation, the wedding was cancelled and her cousin is now single.

She continued: "Turns out, his bride didn't like me from the start because I made a face when we first met. I had a cold. I didn't want to sneeze in her face and make a bad impression. My bad I guess.

"She ruined her own wedding over me having a cold three years ago. I congratulated her before blocking her. Like damn."

Responding to her post, one user remarked: "Wait, wearing white and wearing a wedding dress are two different things."

Another user commented: "Wearing white and wearing a white wedding dress are not the same thing, though. Wearing to her wedding when she was told no also seems a bit d***ish."

A third user chimed in: "Haha brilliant. At least you screenshotted everything! She sounds full of drama if she gets the hump after just one meeting!" Meanwhile, another user queried: "She tried to set you up? Yikes."